Monday, September 23, 2013


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She is every woman who has had a baby born still at birth. She is every woman who has aborted but not known the breadth of her actions. She is every woman who has miscarried or never gotten pregnant.

She is the one who doctor’s say it’s unexplained; she’s perfectly healthy. She is the woman who has lost her life to fertility treatments. She has a laid in a sterile room on a cold table and felt less like a mother and more like a number.

She is every mother who has lost a son or daughter before their time. To motorcycle accidents, or drunk drivers, violence or the like.

She is the temporary mother who has fostered a child for a season to see them ripped away or hosted a child to put them back on a plane.

She is every woman who loved a baby she did not fully know. And lost that baby from her life before she had the chance to know it. She is every woman who has writhed in pain on the bathroom floor. Or stood in NICUs and at gravesides when it should have been the reverse.

She is every woman who has had an open heart but empty arms.

And she is not alone.

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  1. Thanks for sharing this Joy. I never know what to do here. As a woman who raised cousins, had her babies early in life, and am blessed that they are healthy and vibrant, this is a nightmare I've never known and feel so sad for women who have.

    1. Renia, your welcome. I appreciate your honesty and sensitivity. Honestly, the fact that you recognize you don't know what to do is a huge step in the right direction. I'd be happy to send you some simple resources about what to say/not say to those who are hurting if you're interested.

  2. Thanks for your comment on my She post. And thank you for sharing your writing. What you wrote about is all too common, but doesn't seem to be talked about much in society. I've experienced some of what you described, and now that it's years in the past, I can say that I truly believe God puts us in certain situations, not only so that we can grow as individuals, but also so that we can be more empathetic and kind to those who suffer the same (or similar) things we did. Hope you have a blessed day!

    1. Jennie, thanks for sharing. It's always good to hear from those who have gone before us and come out on the other side.