Praying for His Parenting (5-Day Challenge)

(This week we're doing Kathi Lipp's 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge to rock our Valentine's Day. It's not too late to join us.)

Don't have kids? Pray for your future children or for your husband to use his time wisely as Rob recommends.  All of us could be better at that.

 Contributed by Rob Tiegen
 
When Kathi invited me to share some thoughts on how wives can pray for their husbands in their fathering I was excited but a bit overwhelmed.  There are countless ways each man needs prayer as a father, so in ten seconds I had thought of ten different things that I would love to know my wife was praying for me about.

As I continued to think it through, I decided to focus on just one thing -- time.  This is something that God has been burdening my heart with in my own life lately.  I would be encouraged to know that  my wife was standing in the gap and holding me up in prayer as I face the challenge of making ample time to spend with our kids.

I've been reading a great book titled Sticky Faith:  Everyday Ideas to Build Lasting Faith in Your Kids by Dr. Kara E. Powell and Dr. Chap Clark.  The authors include disheartening statistics about the 40 to 50 percent of "church kids" who leave their faith behind in the college years.   As a father who is trying to raise my kids in the Lord that is a hard statistic to hear.  I desperately need prayer to make time with my kids, because time leads to relationship, and relationship opens the door to sharing my faith with my children through each stage, age, and challenge that comes their way.

As important as it is to work hard to provide for our families, to set an example of service to our churches and communities, to stay physically fit, and to connect with our wives, kids desperately need their dad's time so they can receive love, spiritual guidance, and training.  Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, "And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise." (ESV)  The passage is assuming the father is sitting, walking, and ending and beginning his day with his kids.  The deep truths of our faith are passed on during intentional time together.

Wives, your husband will benefit so much from your prayers and encouragement with this.  Pray for your husband to have a heart to spend time with your kids. Since you probably organize the family calendar, make room for him to take each child out for some one-on-one time.  When you see him making a positive connection with your son or daughter, point it out and be his cheerleader.  We need to know that our wives are in our corner praying for us and encouraging us to keep pressing on with our kids, even when it's hard.  Ask God to create opportunities for us to pass on our faith, and for opportunities for you to be an encouragement to him as well.  Your love and support mean more to us than you can know.  Thanks for praying!

Friends -this is Kathi. I want to take the verse that Rob shared with us above and pray it for the men in our lives today:

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, "And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise." (ESV)

Heavenly Father, I pray that your words, your love, your direction would flow through my husband's heart. I pray that my husband would find time in each day to pass on your wisdom to our kids. Lord, let every moment they spend together be something to grow both my husband's heart and my child's heart toward you. And Father, show me ways every single day to call out those things in my husband that are your way - your good and perfect way. Amen

God's Plan for Your Husband's Life (5-Day Challenge)

 (This week we're doing Kathi Lipp's 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge to rock our Valentine's Day. It's not too late to join us.)

 Contributed by Dineen Miller

My husband doesn't know God. He's a great guy, but he just doesn't believe God exists. Yet there I stand in this marriage with this man I adore, and I see God's plan for his life all around him.

And I love that I'm part of that plan just as I know my husband is part of God's plan for me. My husband's work, his challenges and trials -- I see them all coming from God's loving hand to bring him into a relationship with Christ.

Several years ago God impressed upon me to pray for my husband as if he were already a believer. As I started this journey I began to see that, aside from his greatest need to know Jesus, his day-to-day needs were much the same as a believing husband.

Each January I set a time aside to seek God for specific needs and Scriptures to pray for my family, and each year God is faithful to give me a specific verse or verses to pray for my husband and daughters. Each time reveals a piece of God’s plan for my husband, like pieces of a puzzle, and with each piece, I learn to trust God's plan more and more.

This is the verse God spoke to my heart to pray for my husband in 2012:

and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God. — Ephesians 3:19

What a powerful truth from God's Word! Because no matter where we are in our faith journey, it's all about God's unfailing and life-changing love.

Lord, help my husband to fully understand Your amazing and passionate love for us. Fill him with this fullness and revelation of You and help him to firmly establish his identity in You. I pray that Your love will be the guiding force in his life, whether he sees it or not. In Your name, Jesus, amen!

Praying for Your Marriage (5-Day Challenge)

(This week we're doing Kathi Lipp's 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge to rock our Valentine's Day. It's not too late to join us.)

Contributed by Kathi Lipp:

"Our prayer must not be self-centered. It must arise not only because we feel our own need as a burden we must lay upon God, but also because we are so bound up in love for our fellow men that we feel their need as acutely as our own. To make intercession for men is the most powerful and practical way in which we can express our love for them."   John Calvin

When things are going well, there is nothing better than being in love with the man you have committed your life to. When you agree on finances, plans, and what to have for dinner, there is almost nothing better than the safety and security of going through life with someone you love.

But when life is stressful, there is no place the stress shows up faster than in your marriage. And that is just plain painful. I know when I get overwhelmed, stressed out, or scared, Roger is the one I naturally take those feelings out on. I don't mean to -- really! But he is usually the one standing closest to me when things explode, and he takes the brunt of the hit. One of the things I need to remember in that situation is that God did not intend for my husband to become my emotional dumping ground. God wants us to bring every worry, every anxiety, every problem, every sin to him.

I want you to be encouraged. I want you to know that you are already doing more for your marriage by committing to pray for him than most wives will ever do for their husbands Just the simple act of praying for your husband and asking for God's direction is a huge step in having a better relationship with your man.

When I dropped the agenda I had in praying for Roger (though not without a lot of conviction and soul wrestling), I had a new freedom in my prayer life. It wasn't up to me to change Roger into the kind of husband I wanted. God started to show both of us that we needed to stop looking to each other to meet all of our needs and start looking to our Creator to meet them. It took a lot of the pressure off Roger, and off me.

Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. (Heb. 12:14–15)

Dear God, Sanctify our relationship with your holy presence, that we might be for each other a blessed oasis in a dry and desert land. Help us to resolve disagreements and hurts gently, with love, patience, and abiding respect, so that neither bitterness nor resentment will ever take root in our hearts. Let the divine light of your love so shine through our marriage that we present a holy example to others and lead them to your truth.

Praying for HIs Emotional Health (5-Day Challenge)

 (This week we're doing Kathi Lipp's 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge to rock our Valentine's Day. It's not too late to join us.)

Right now, at this very moment, my family is going through a crisis. My husband Roger and I are making some decisions that will affect our family for a long time to come. And I'm grateful that my husband is in a place where he is emotionally and spiritually strong enough to lead. But he would be the first to admit that he's not always been in that place.

Roger has gone through some dark times in his life. And I know that your husband has, too.

Instead of being surprised when my husband hits those dark times, I want to be prepared. Prepared with scripture. Prepared with encouragement. Prepared with a soft place for him to land, as well as a wife who is strong because I've been working my prayer muscle on his behalf.

I don't know what that dark place is for your husband, but I have a few guesses:

• A battle with depression
• The stronghold of pornography
• A feeling of worthlessness
• A dependency on drugs or alcohol
• The feeling of inadequacy -- at work or at home
• Insecurity about his future and the future of his family
• Fear around finances

When those times come up (or maybe most of your marriage has been in the midst of one of these) the best thing we can do for our man is pray.

Pour over the scriptures and find the one (or dozen) that cover your husband, and pray. Pray like his life depends on it. Because to a large extent, it does.

Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Heavenly Father, I pray that you would reign over every area of my husband’s mind. I pray that whoever he is without you is dead, and who he is in you is alive. I pray that his habits and hangups that he wants to be free from would be replaced by a hope only you can give.

Show him every day who he was designed to be, in you. I am so grateful for the love you lavish over my husband. Thank you for giving yourself for him. God, give me the eyes to see him as you see him; loved, adored, precious, cherished. Amen.

Contributed by Kathi Lipp.

When He Feels Inadequate (5-Day Challenge)

(This week we're doing Kathi Lipp's 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge to rock our Valentine's Day. It's not too late to join us.)

 Contributed by Arlene Pellicane

I always picture my husband with a huge "S" across his chest. He is my rescuer - the one who changes the car battery, solves my computer problem, and makes breakfast for the family on many days. What I sometimes forget is that "Superman" has a bad day in the office once in awhile. He might feel like a hero while the hot oatmeal is being served but a few hours later, he feels like he's barely in control of his circumstances.

That's when I can pray that the Lord will fill his heart and mind with peace and wisdom. When my husband feels inadequate, I can pray that his weakness becomes an opportunity to experience God's strength.

May this verse guide our prayers today for our husbands:

"You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you." Isaiah 26:3

Lord, help my husband to keep his mind totally focused on you today. May he trust in your steadfast love and in your ability to solve the problems that face him today. Keep him in your perfect peace. Settle his mind and heart. Give him courage because he trusts in you.

Kathi has provided a free printable including scriptures to pray for your husband when he is overwhelmed. Be sure and print it out so you can refer back to it often.

Giveaway Winner: Praying God's Word for Your Husband

And the winner is...

 Esther with the comment:

I'm in! My discipler told me before that you can never NAG a man into leadership, but you can PRAY that he rises to the challenge. This is a great idea. I need more accountability in my prayer life. 

Congratulations, Esther! Your book will be delivered to you soon.

Remember we start our 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge to rock our Valentine's Day on Monday. I'm looking forward to hearing your stories of God working in your husband through your prayers.

Preparing to Rock Your V-day: A Valuable Tool

 If you don't know, I'm hosting the 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge beginning Monday, so you can rock your Valentine's Day. We'll be using Kathi Lipp's book, Praying God's Word for Your Husband, (you can still enter the giveaway) and there will be a post here each day to guide your prayer time.

Free Printable: Creating a Quiet Time Routing

Kathi starts her book teaching you how to prepare for prayer. One of the most important parts of preparing our hearts for prayer is having a daily routine. Kathi has generously provided a printable to help you make your daily routine a habit. If you struggle with creating a daily routine (like me) than this is a great reminder to print and hang on the refrigerator, etc.

Be sure to come back on Friday when the giveaway winner will be announced.

Rock Your Valentine's Day

(The giveaway winner will be announced Friday, February 8th.)

What if this year was your best Valentine's Day ever? What if after Valentine's Day 2013 your marriage was better? Your husband was better? And maybe even you were better? It is possible...

If you want to have a Valentine's Day like no other then I'd like to invite you to join me in a 5-Day Pray for Your Man Challenge. Together we'll begin reading Kathi Lipp's Praying God's Word for Your Husband. We'll start the challenge on February 11th with a post each day to guide you in praying for your husband. Plus they'll be lots of free resources along the way to help you love your husband, improve your marriage, and rock your Valentine's Day!

I got the chance to hear Kathi speak at Allume last year. What I liked most about her was her genuiness and her practical, down-to-earth manner. Kathi Lipp is the author of seven books including The Husband Project, and Praying God's Word for Your Husband. She speaks 60-70 times a year (holy mole!) to women across the US about loving God and loving those God has put in their path. She and her husband Roger are the parents of four young adults and survived blending all those kids (when they were teens.)

Want to win a free copy of Praying God's Word for Your Husband? Then let me know you're joining the 5-Day Challenge in the comments below and what excites you most about it.